Some of the mis-conceptions about bondage

I was thinking today, about some of the many misconceptions about bondage, and thought that this would probably be a good place to put a few of them down.

I've also noticed that the word 'bondage' is often seen as dirty / obscene / crude things to do by weirdos and freaks, and is only ever done as part of sadomasochistic practices.

I remember driving one day, many years ago, with a car full of young women all talking about sex and such like. The conversation moved on to fantasies, when one of them piped up "oh I hate all that bondage" to which the others agreed and described how weird it was, etc.. Then after a very short while, someone else mentioned "but it's great being tied up" to which every passenger quickly agreed and shared a flavour of their own personal experiences in being tied up.


'Bondage' is only a small part of the term 'BDSM', which stands for 'Bondage, Domination, Sadism, and Masochism'.
You can have any of these four sections by themselves. You can also have pretty much any combination of the four.
Of course also, because one person may be into one thing, doesn't mean they're just a moment away from all the others!

Those 'in the scene' (ie regular members of bondage related forums, social groups, etc.) often refer to another mantra of 'SSC'. This describes quite simply that all experiences should be 'Safe, Sane, and Consensual'.
SAFE - Nothing should every be unsafe - ie multiple release mechanisms are available at all times, such as all purpose scissors that have been tested in advance, never leave a bound person un-attended, nothing is to be tied around the front of the neck, good circulation at all areas of the body should be checked regularly, 'safe-words' are available for immediate release without questions, etc
SANE - Everything should be Sane - ie never whilst under the influence of drugs or alcohol, all people involved should be of 'sound mind', etc.
CONSENSUAL - of course regardless of the fantasy stories apparently to the contrary, all play must be consensual, between consenting adults, with boundaries and limits established in advance.


Throughout these pages, these thoughts are of course based from my experience over the years I've been interested and learning more. Situations are of course different for every couple/person/group/.. so always ensure an open communication with your partner prior to proceeding with anything you may read or see on this or any other website.

To help keep things easier to navigate, I will provide each of these sections as new posts, to follow.

I hope to cover in my following posts, the following topics:

• Is it only weak people who like to be tied?
• Who's really in control when someone's tied up?
• Why be tied up? Why tie another person up?
• Who gets the most pleasure?
• Is it safe? How can I make it safer?
  
• How can I tie up my partner / get my partner to tie me up?
• What should I use to tie?